Before our wedding, I heard over and over again, "The second the wedding is over, people are going to start asking you when you're going to have kids." I had ample time to prep for the day that the questions would start. I even thought of snarky responses, because even though Matt and I want to have kids someday way in the future, it's really not anyone's business. (Babies are scary. They're like tiny velociraptors, we've decided.)
The wedding came and went, and I kept expecting the questions to start. But they never came. Instead, we've heard from I-don't-know-how-many-people, "Enjoy being married for a few years first," "I'm not in a rush to become a great-grandparent," "Don't have kids," "We can wait to have grandkids," "I don't want to pressure you, because my mother-in-law pressured me," "You can wait a few years."
At first I was completely relieved by these comments. Yay, no one expects us to start punching 'em out immediately! But as they kept coming, I started to get annoyed. I don't think these comments are any better than ones pestering us to have children. "When are you going to have children" seems to imply that MY life isn't complete without them, while "We can wait" implies that OTHER PEOPLE's lives ARE complete without my having kids, and they don't want me to screw that up for them.
We'll operate on our own timetable and make our own decisions. Let's just not talk about kids until then.
Anybody else getting annoyed by others' comments about kids?
This post title is thanks to my friend Megan, who defines "baby rabies" as "that disease you get where you're so obsessed with babies, you're practically foaming at the mouth."
